Erzabel earns up to £60,000 a month, by her own account.
She still will not go halves on dinner.
The 30-year-old content creator, who has more than 854,000 Instagram followers (@erzabelx) and says she has millions more across platforms, reckons a man reaching for the calculator would end things before they started.
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“Thankfully, I’ve never had a man ask me to split the bill, but if he did, there wouldn’t be a second date,” she said.
“That’s for sure.”
The bill is a test, not a transaction
None of this is about affordability. She can cover dinner. She would simply rather not.
“A man should treat a lady. Just because I can afford to pay doesn’t mean I should have to, especially at the beginning,” she said.
“I can buy anything I need for myself, but dating is different. I want a man to make an effort and show me that he wants to take care of me.”
She wants a provider and a protector. She also wants someone who does not flinch at her job.
“He has to be very secure in himself and comfortable with what I do,” she said.
“I know that my career wouldn’t be easy for every man to accept, so confidence is very important.”
Ambition ranks above appearance
Looks come second, and she says so without much ceremony. Drive is the thing.
“I have to be attracted to them, but being successful always gives a man more aura,” she said.
“As someone who’s worked hard to build her own empire, I’m naturally attracted to someone who has that same ambition and drive.”
Laziness ends it immediately. So does working in the same industry, which she thinks would get complicated fast.
“I want somebody with his own success, goals and life,” she said.
Switzerland, Iceland and a bikini in the snow
Her dream date runs to a Swiss hotel, snow-capped mountains and a glass of wine pointed at the view.
Her best date so far happened closer to sea level, at a hotel beside a beach where the pair shared a first kiss.
“That’s the kind of date I remember, somewhere beautiful where the person has made a real effort,” she said.
Iceland is next on the list, freezing temperatures accepted as part of the deal.
“I could even create some amazing content wearing a bikini in the snow, although I’d probably have to run back inside very quickly,” she added.
She is also clear that wanting to be treated is not the same as needing to be funded.
“It’s very important for women to be financially independent because then you have freedom and don’t need to depend on a man,” she said.
“But being independent doesn’t mean lowering your standards.
I’ve created the life I want for myself, so any man I date needs to bring something meaningful to the table too.”
Why it matters
Opinions about who pays perform reliably well for creators, and Erzabel’s version travels further than most because the person insisting on being treated is the one out-earning the table.
That contradiction is the engagement engine.
Her line about needing a partner who is comfortable with her career points at something quieter, though: for creators working in glamour and adult-adjacent content, the job does not stay at the desk.
It turns up in the relationship, and it filters the dating pool before anyone reaches the bill.
The “financially independent but still traditional” position has hardened into its own content category over the past two years, sitting between the trad-wife wave and the high-earning-woman debate that keeps cutting comment sections neatly in half.
For now she is waiting on Switzerland. Iceland stays on the list until someone books it.
